Opposites attract

Lasting relationships are a blend of opposite types of personalities.  The leader and the follower.  The controller and the submissive.  The spender and the saver.  The navigator and the crew.  Those relationships don't have to be pleasant all the time but they do have to function well together to sustain over the long haul.  So a perfect marriage is not about being madly in love all the time as many young people think it should be.  A perfect marriage does not really exist.  A strong committed marriage is possible though.  Joe and I didn't always like each other.  We didn't always love each other.  Oh, I know, that sounds harsh.  We were human beings with frailties and obnoxious characteristics.  But what we were was committed to the vows that we took and the family that we had created.  When the team is missing a key member, the rest of the members flounder for a while trying to find out how to fill the gap that is left.  Floundering . . . that is the stage of the game that I am in now.   flounder, flounder, flounder,  . . . . thud.  flounder, flounder, flounder, . . . . . splash.  flounder, flounder, flounder,  . . . someone turn me right side up.